Do you struggle sometimes to say that little word, “no?”
Yep. Me, too.
I led exercises in how to say NO at the FEM Talks event, “How To Set Nourishing Boundaries and Say No With An Open Heart”.
I asked the women when it was hard for them to say no. Some of the things they said were:Continue Reading
Oh c**p, I couldn’t load the program I needed… Here I was for my carefully prepared talk to the Association of Women In Science in Palo Alto, CA.
Since this is a science group (and because it’s really fun), I had planned to use my Voiceprint program to demonstrate the acoustics of voice projection towards the end of my presentation.
My regular slideshow was up and running on my Macbook just fine. But the Voiceprint program (a spectrograph representation of the frequencies in the voice) lives on my old PC laptop, which is still running Windows 7, and hadn’t been booted up in about 6 months.
I DID boot it up the day before so it could do that interminable Windows Update thing. Unfortunately, the next day, it had 78 MORE updates to install, which took FOREVER, and it was still slogging through that as I began my talk. Aaarrgghh!Continue Reading
In our journey to create a better world, one of the crucial things we need to do is support powerful women speaking powerfully.
ALL of us.
We have what I call a “cultural voice story” – that women’s voices are less important than men’s. There’s another one I’ve just realized we have – that women have to compete (and compete hard) with each other for the attention of men.
Men can be very dismissive of women’s voices. Another story – we don’t need to pay attention to what women say. I worked with a woman pilot, whose male co-pilots didn’t pay any attention to her voice over their headphones unless she dropped her pitch to sound more like a guy. In her normal speaking voice, they completely tuned her out. It was as if she hadn’t even spoken. When she sounded more like a guy, their brains paid attention.
Voice stories can be insidious, because they are largely UNCONSCIOUS. You don’t even know you have them.
So men, please be aware of these cultural voice stories, and stop buying into them. Notice if you’re tuning women out, and make a choice to tune them back in.
And women, we can be even more critical of other women than the guys are. Men may tune us out, but we often actively tear each other down.
I may have been lucky with women – I’ve been knocked down more often by men than by other women. But I have female friends who have been really savaged by other women.
by Ariana Newcomer
Are you longing to become the woman you know in your bones you were born to be, yet feeling stuck? Are you struggling to create the life you most yearn for?
You may be suffering from a “support deficiency,” like my big dog, Pele, trying to sleep in the cat’s bed…
Think about an area of your life you are most wanting to manifest in, and answer these questions:
For many women, the answer to these questions is NOT MANY.
Women can have a great deal of trouble asking for and receiving support, not to mention actually investing in themselves by paying for support and mentoring.
I certainly did! I started making real breakthroughs when I started taking support seriously enough to invest in coaches and mentors.
Memorial Day has come and gone and summer is officially upon us and you know what that means… Travel! Packing your bags and heading off for some quality time to recharge and rejuvenate.
Let me ask you a question – when was the last time YOU took time off from your business to take a vacation?
Unfortunately, for many heart centered entrepreneurs, travel is viewed as a luxury and it gets put off because our schedules are jammed packed with marketing activities in an effort to get more clients.
Many entrepreneurs don’t realize how mentally, physically and financially worn down they are truly are AND most make the common mistake that taking on MORE clients is the only solution to fix the problem.
From personal experience I can tell you… It’s NOT!
Taking on more clients only means that you will have less free time for yourself. The answer is not more clients, it’s getting help to create a pricing strategy so you make more money with less clients!Continue Reading