Do you struggle sometimes to say that little word, “no?”
Yep. Me, too.
I led exercises in how to say NO at the FEM Talks event, “How To Set Nourishing Boundaries and Say No With An Open Heart”.
I asked the women when it was hard for them to say no. Some of the things they said were:Continue Reading
Our need to “self express” is deeply human. It is a key to our creativity and having a life that has meaning.
It’s also key to both our spiritual growth and our worldly contribution.
Your voice is your primary instrument of self expression, yet you normally take it for granted.
So much of our culture conspires against your full self expression – cultural expectations of women (and men), the things you were told as a child, traumatic events that caused you to shut down, your own perceptions of how you’re “supposed” to sound.
I call these “voice stories” – unconscious decisions you’ve made about how to sound (or NOT to sound), and about how you can speak, that cause you to hold your voice back.
I’m on a mission to bring back your full self expression, and I’ve discovered that opening up your voice is an overlooked, underutilized way to do it.
When Connie came to work with me, she had a very small, quiet voice. We met in Zumba class, and she would always stand in the back. She never smiled. If she came in late, we never noticed her coming in.
She felt that people didn’t listen to her, and told me that people would often talk over her.
Now, she was not a tiny woman, nor was she any kind of dummy. She was a CFO in between jobs.Continue Reading
Shhhh. It’s a secret.
Want to follow your calling? Embody your voice.
You know you want to succeed doing your heart’s work and making a difference in the world. That thing – a calling – you’ve got it. It whispers your name in the night, tugs at your soul, and tells you to do things you’re scared to do. So you resist.
But there it is again the next night, next day, next week. Still, you resist.
You know that if you don’t follow that calling, you’ll regret it. You already regret the time you’ve spent serving other people’s dreams (except your kids’ dreams – you love serving your kids’ dreams).
You take a few steps into it. It’s scary, and different, and hard. You back off.
I can’t, you say. I don’t know enough. I’m not good enough. I don’t have enough credentials and certifications. Who am I to think I can _______ ? (Fill in the blank with your calling.)