How To Stop Playing Small & Dial UP Your Vision Life

April 30, 2015 by admin

You are here to create the life you are meant to enjoy. More than achieving your goals and having every experience you have ever dreamed of, you are invited to consciously open to the call of your essence. To explore the tapestry of your feminine power, climb deep within your heart and breathe life into your truest gifts. To cultivate these experiences as a woman, ripening your authentic leadership as you awaken yourself…

Feminine potency is a gale force wind. It is a true and unfailing force of nature, unstoppable and powerful, just as you are.

Sometimes, however, we get bogged down in the vastness of our do-it-all-alone tendencies, overwhelm, or blind spots.

The KEY is to become more at choice about how we wield our power and BIGness … with Clarity witnessed in Supportive Community. By exploring the ancient feminine wisdom that already runs through our veins, we reconnect with the source of great wisdom, strength, power, beauty and pleasure!Continue Reading

How To Handle Sales Rejection With Grace

April 21, 2015 by admin

by Ariana Newcomer

Have you ever gone into a sales conversation with a prospective client DREADING the whole thing? I have.

The fear of rejection is a powerful one, and it is what stops most women entrepreneurs from getting more clients.

Rejection can trigger deep, core emotions, and even make us feel our survival is in question. We learned to avoid situations that could cause us to feel threatened this way – to protect our tender, inner selves.

As entrepreneurs, however, we have to grow past these self-imposed limitations. I’ve written before about “Business As A Transformational Journey.” Getting past and transforming our fear of rejection in sales conversations is crucial to our success.

We need to let go of what one of my mentors calls “spiritual stubbornness,” too. For spirit-driven entrepreneurs, fear of rejection mingles with the story that money shouldn’t even be part of what we do, which can cause almost total paralysis, along with big time resentment and the pain of not succeeding in our deep purpose.

I can’t tell you how many times I hear these stories from my clients: “I shouldn’t charge for what I do because it’s my calling,” or “my gift” or “I should just be giving this away if I’m really spiritual.”

As we shift into embracing money as part of our spiritual path, along with using the strategies I’m going to give you today, we open up wonderful possibilities for ourselves – not just in our businesses, but in all our relationships, and in our spiritual dimension as well.

Growing in this specific area helps us let go of old patterns of self doubt and feeling unworthy that we definitely don’t need to carry around anymore!

Would you like to handle sales rejection with grace?

Great! I’ve got 3 strategies for you to step into your power in sales conversations when you feel threatened by rejection.Continue Reading

3 Secrets Of Highly Effective Coaching

April 15, 2015 by admin

by Ariana Newcomer

Do you challenge your clients to step outside their comfort zone so they can grow?

Do you ask them to do things that you know are scary for them? Do you request that they get things done in a really short amount of time? Or straight-out tell them that a story they’re telling themselves is keeping them stuck?

Actions like these challenge your clients to step into their growing edge, move past their fear, and surprise themselves with what they can actually accomplish.

As coaches, these actions challenge US to stop being so nice, playing it safe, and worrying about what our clients think about us (common issues for women that hold us back in business).

If we’re not challenging our clients this way, we’re at risk of losing them. We’ll have a hard time charging and getting higher fees. But most importantly, we’re actually failing our clients. They hire us to help them create transformation. Transformation doesn’t happen when we’re comfortable.

So, how do you challenge a client to be more and do more than they thought they could, without feeling like a bully?Continue Reading

Why You Need To Add VIP Days To Your Business

March 25, 2015 by admin

by Ariana Newcomer

I love doing VIP days with my clients. Here’s why YOU need to add them to your biz:

You can implement them immediately, and use them over and over again.
Give your business a quick infusion of cash anytime you need it.
They are flexible – they give you so many different ways to offer services that are easy to deliver, and that clients will pay for.
Use them to increase the value of your programs and trainings, by offering them as a bonus.
Get a specific result FAST.
Increase your credibility and status as an expert.
Make more for your time.
A VIP Day is something that’s easy for clients to say yes to.

What is a VIP Day?

It is concentrated time – just one day – with one person (or a group), focusing on a specific topic with very structured content.

A VIP Day can go in-depth on your topic, or you can do an overview. You have the time to deep-dive and co-create with your client(s) in a way that is magical and transformational.

VIP Days can be in person or virtual. Each has its benefits.Continue Reading

Sorry! Do Women Need To Stop Saying It?

March 19, 2015 by admin

by Ariana Newcomer

We say it all the time.

A lot of the times we say “sorry,” it’s just a reflex, and not really needed. Sometimes it’s actually appropriate.

Do you know the difference?

I have a colleague who says it all the time, even when she’s doing what she’s supposed to be doing! She says it’s a thing the English do, and perhaps they do it more than Americans, but frankly, it’s a thing many WOMEN do all the time. How many times a day do you say “sorry?”

We grew up with our mothers saying it. We learned to be NICE and to please others. Part of being nice was learning to apologize all the time – for anything that made others uncomfortable, or might possibly make someone uncomfortable. We learned to take care of others first, and to apologize for taking care of ourselves.

We also tend to “talk down” or deprecate ourselves, rather than acknowledge our successes, to make others feel more comfortable. When someone compliments our dress, we say “Oh, this old thing?” or “Oh, yours is so much nicer.” When someone congratulates us, we say “I couldn’t have done it without help.”

Some self-deprecation, especially done with humor, DOES help make others feel comfortable, and can help us connect. But we can overdo it to the point where it becomes self-sabotaging.Continue Reading

Making Money Wrong

February 25, 2015 by admin

I’ve done my share of it. Spirit-driven and service-oriented women are especially likely to make money wrong.

We have stories we grew up with, that came from religions, that we absorbed from our culture. Money is the root of all evil. It’s easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to get into heaven. Rich people are selfish and greedy. Caring about money makes me a bad person. I can’t be a spiritual person and be wealthy.

Here’s one of mine I uncovered last year: If I make a lot of money, I’ll no longer be an artist. (This is of a piece with the mentality that if I go for lots of money as an artist, I’m “selling out.”) That was really holding me back!

There are plenty more of them, too. Some people believe that we need to get rid of money entirely and have a “gift economy” where people give and receive freely, sharing and taking care of each other.

If you’re making money wrong, you won’t allow yourself to get much of it, which means you won’t be working with (serving) many people. Your impact in the world will be small.

What is money, really? It’s a medium of exchange. The coins and pieces of paper don’t have any value in and of themselves. They have value because we say they do, and because everyone agrees. We give it in exchange for things and services.

Money makes it easier for us than if we had to exchange actual stuff for everything. This is the barter or trade system. It works well if you want chickens and your client wants to trade you her chickens for your services. It breaks down when you don’t want chickens and that’s all she has to barter with. (You also don’t want to have to take her chickens, then trade them for something else you really do want, because you have no place to keep chickens in the meantime.)

If you got chickens for your services, would the chickens then be “the root of all evil?” Of course not.