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Healing the soul's voice

What Do You Do When Things Don’t Go As Planned?

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Oh c**p, I couldn’t load the program I needed… Here I was for my carefully prepared talk to the Association of Women In Science in Palo Alto, CA.

Since this is a science group (and because it’s really fun), I had planned to use my Voiceprint program to demonstrate the acoustics of voice projection towards the end of my presentation.

My regular slideshow was up and running on my Macbook just fine. But the Voiceprint program (a spectrograph representation of the frequencies in the voice) lives on my old PC laptop, which is still running Windows 7, and hadn’t been booted up in about 6 months.

I DID boot it up the day before so it could do that interminable Windows Update thing. Unfortunately, the next day, it had 78 MORE updates to install, which took FOREVER, and it was still slogging through that as I began my talk. Aaarrgghh!Continue Reading

Speaking For Change

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IMG_1107_smI had a great time at FEM Talks in Novato last Saturday, where I gave a talk on “Speaking for Change.”

This is an important topic for those of us who are working to create positive change. How do we actually use our voices to Speak for Change?

Here are some of the highlights of my talk. (This all applies to your marketing, too, by the way.)

We actually have to speak to successfully influence and motivate people to take action of some kind. That requires getting out of the “having to be nice” and “not wanting to dominate anyone” modes of thinking.

We have to speak powerfully and with passion. Holding back isn’t going to cut it – with words and with our voices. We must generate emotion in our listeners.Continue Reading

Becoming Fearless (Or Not)

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I was in a coaching program for a while with “Fearless” in the title. I learned a lot, but I didn’t become fearless.

Lots of people out there want to teach you how to become Fearless!! – to banish fear, to get rid of it, to stop it – because fear is BAD. Fear is negative, and we can’t have any negativity in our lives if we want to succeed. Or so the story goes.

The truth is, it’s not actually a good thing to get rid of fear.

There are 3 pieces of this.

One: Fear is actually a very valuable thing that tells us something is wrong, or could go badly wrong. Sometimes it is necessary to survival. That fear you feel when you’re thinking about whether to get into an elevator with a shifty-eyed, bad-energy-pouring-off-him guy is a good thing. It says, “Danger! Don’t go in there!”

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SoulCollage® is a fun, creative process to nourish your soul!

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Want a fun, creative process to nourish your soul?

I LOVE SoulCollage®. It’s a wonderful way to access my inner wisdom and higher guidance –  another way to connect with the voice of my soul.

Not only that, it’s FUN and CREATIVE – and there’s no way to “do it wrong.”

Sounds fabulous, doesn’t it?

We collage our own cards and consult them. Because we made our own cards from images that called to us, and we give meaning to the cards, we are consulting our own inner wisdom – the voice of our soul – when we consult them.

SoulCollageFacilitatorLogo-1inchSoulCollage® was created by Seena Frost in the 80’s, and the community of SoulCollage-ers and SoulCollage® Facilitators has been growing around the world ever since. I was introduced to the process a couple of years ago by my dear friend, Mariabruna Sirabella, and recently became a Facilitator myself.Continue Reading

Blab With Terry Wildemann & Ariana Lise Newcomer

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I’m excited to share my recent Blab interview with Terry Wildemann creator of the Attractionpreneur™ Business Show.

Your usual voice is NOT your whole, authentic voice – the voice of your soul. It’s only part of it.

If your soul has a big purpose, you need your whole voice to express it. Your habits of speech are unconsciously preventing you from truly communicating.

On the blab I demonstrate how your voice is sabotaging you, and I reveal secrets I’ve learned in working with hundreds of women (and a few men) to healing your soul’s voice. Bring your voice into full congruency with all that you are, so you can come into an authentic, congruent, confident and powerful expression of the YOU are meant to be.
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Will You Support Women Speaking Powerfully?

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In our journey to create a better world, one of the crucial things we need to do is support powerful women speaking powerfully.

ALL of us.

We have what I call a “cultural voice story” – that women’s voices are less important than men’s. There’s another one I’ve just realized we have – that women have to compete (and compete hard) with each other for the attention of men.

Men can be very dismissive of women’s voices. Another story – we don’t need to pay attention to what women say. I worked with a woman pilot, whose male co-pilots didn’t pay any attention to her voice over their headphones unless she dropped her pitch to sound more like a guy. In her normal speaking voice, they completely tuned her out. It was as if she hadn’t even spoken. When she sounded more like a guy, their brains paid attention.

Voice stories can be insidious, because they are largely UNCONSCIOUS. You don’t even know you have them.

So men, please be aware of these cultural voice stories, and stop buying into them. Notice if you’re tuning women out, and make a choice to tune them back in.

And women, we can be even more critical of other women than the guys are. Men may tune us out, but we often actively tear each other down.

I may have been lucky with women – I’ve been knocked down more often by men than by other women. But I have female friends who have been really savaged by other women.

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