As much work as I’ve done on myself and my ability to communicate with integrity, I still goof sometimes.
I did it with a dear friend the other day. I said something that really hurt her. I actually used a word I’ve never used in that context before. It was extreme hyperbole, and totally inappropriate.
I was stunned that it came out of my mouth, and BOY was I ashamed.
And irony of ironies – we were having a meeting about a retreat we’re doing on difficult communication.
I remembered the old tale where an uncivil little girl is cursed by a fairy to have toads & snakes come out of her mouth, while her civil and kind sister is given the gift of flowers and jewels.
We sat there, looking at the toad I had spoken, sitting in the middle of the room. I was squirming inside. My friend is a very accomplished communicator herself, and we worked it out pretty quickly.
But my shame didn’t go away for more than an hour. [Read more…] about When toads come out of my mouth…